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August 25, 2020


How often do you check and compare your life situation with your neighbours’? The Ebbinghaus Illusion is a good illustration to remind us about contentment. Which orange circle is larger?


The two are of the same size, but the left one appears smaller because the surrounding circles are larger. Conversely, the one on the right appears larger because of the ring of smaller and closer circles.

In his book Happy Ever After, Paul Dolan asserts many people live by erroneous social narratives that give false promises of happiness. He cites a 2010 study by Daniel Kahneman that concludes in the US, annual household income increases beyond $75,000 does not correlate directly with increase in happiness in people. Yet, other studies repeated in various countries show that regardless of their actual level of income, people feel they would be happier earning just 15% more. When comparing ourselves with our peers and neigbours, we tend to look upward--to those in better situations than ourselves. Unfortunately, our perception and level of satisfaction of our own wages is higher when our neighbours make less than us. Interestingly, Dolan cites a 2016 paper showing higher bankruptcy rates in neighbours of 649 lottery winners two years after the win. One hypothesis is that these neighbours spend more on visible goods to keep up with their neighbour who won the lottery. 

Using the Ebbinghaus illusion as an analogy, by comparing ourselves with people around us who are “better” than us with whatever metrics we choose, we are unhappy because we see ourselves as smaller (poorer) than we really are. This effect is especially seen in the context of seeing the same “me” encircled by peers who are less well-off than us. The former viewpoint breeds envy, discontentment and unhappiness. The latter perspective promotes gratitude, compassion, and a helping attitude. Supporting this is a psychology study showing people given a small amount of free money reports greater satisfaction giving it away rather than keep it. 

Philippians 4:11-13 “I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances…the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty of in want. I can everything through him who gives me strength.”

1 Timothy 6:6-8 “But godliness with contentment is great gain…but if we have food and clothing, we will be content with that.”

Hebrews 13:5 “Keep your lives free from the love of money and be content with what you have.”

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